I hit a severe case of writers block this week – something that happens on a fairly regular basis – but two other blog posts have made me question yet again my ideas about being an inspiration. Am I inspirational because I happen to be blind and married and employed? Or is it because I have fought despair, unemployment, family members’ illness, fractious family dynamics, or others’ perceptions of my capabilities? I suppose the difference is that you would know the former about me either on sight or within two minutes of talking to me; the latter takes a lot longer to drag out.
I think the difference is in the perpetuation and the audience of whoever is making the “you’re so inspirational!” comments. Sure, it’s frustrating to have to explain to a stranger that it is not a Herculean effort to put on a coordinated outfit in the morning, but it is a way to show one person that we are, above all, human. We are neither so beaten down by life nor an embodiment of Daredevil, and we can explain this; hopefully that one person will be able to take that with them through life and correct others’ perceptions (“I once met a blind person, and she was witty/sarcastic/having a bad day/smiling… just, well, normal!”). Unfortunately, if a blind person is in the media, it is for one of two reasons: something bad happened to them (being denied service because of a guide dog, falling off an LRT platform), or they are “overcoming insurmountable odds” to open a restaurant, sing the national anthem at a ball game, or becoming a state’s first Supreme Court judge.. Perhaps because of this, the perceptions of our accomplishments and our setbacks are magnified by the mere reach of such pieces, thanks to social media and the Internet.
My friend Meagan wrote a terrific blog post about the media perception, generally with grace and compassion and an even hand. However, I have read tweets and facebook posts about how the media just doesn’t get it, is patronizing; perhaps I have even made them myself. But on the personal inspirational front, a recent blog post by a friend of a friend of a friend made me rethink my own thoughts about being inspirational. Maybe I am inspirational because I am human, because I push and struggle and triumph, just like everyone else. So if I AM inspirational, just remember, that so are you, and so is everyone else.
I have been thinking about how we feel about ourselves versus how others see us. That is the reason why I started a fb challenge. You have been a example of strength to me for many reasons, and my favorite is when you told packed up and moved to a different province. I had a difficult time just moving to a different city. It has nothing to do with the challenges of being blind. If others think that you are an inspiration, that should tell you that you are one special, beautiful, and amazing woman.
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You flatter me! But seriously, thank you… this means a lot. I think if we take a step back and think about how scary something is, we’d never do it… but looking back, I think i realize that it was pretty gutsy to move up here with no more than my life savings and a hope and prayer…
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I think there are different levels of being brave/gutsy. There are things that made me nervous (moving out of the area my friends lived in, but I had a job in the area) and things that I couldn’t imagine doing (moving to a different place with no leads) I am scared to travel, but at the same time I am hoping to, and looking forward to it. It’s like a good scared. And different people have different comfort zones and levels of confidence. I just think you have a lot of confidence and are more brave than other people.
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There’s always a few ways to interpret something. Great post.
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Amen. But I still think Chef Laura Martinez, a chef who is blind and who opened a restaurant in Chicago is inspirational. TONS of graduates from Le Cordon Bleu aspire to open their own restaurant, and she did it.
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I completely agree! What got me thinking about it was a headline that went something like “Despite being blind…” It makes blindness part of the equation, when just opening up a restaurant in and of itself is impressive 😀
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Oh, yes. Despite their meaning well, I *hate* it when writers/editors use “despite” in a story about someone who has a disability. Another pet peeve? When writers claim that someone has “overcome” their disability to do such and such. I am probably nitpicking, but it seems to me the only way I could claim to have overcome my disability would be if I got my sight back. _____
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