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Getting Angry: A Simple question…

13 Friday Feb 2015

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I love living in a city, and I love visiting cities.  For me, getting around is generally convenient on public transportation – we’ve come a long way from walking two miles to the once-an-hour streetcar stops of yesteryear.  Sure, we all like to complain when public transit doesn’t go the way we think it should, and we have a right to complain when drivers are consistently late, give us truly terrible directions to where we need to go (“over there” is not helpful), or leave us sitting on a bus stop bench in the summer heat.  But over all, I have been fairly lucky in my public transit experiences in Edmonton, in New York City, and in other cities I have traveled.

 

Most large cities have a Paratransit service that provides assistance to those who are unable to use public transportation for some or all trips due to a physical or cognitive disability; Edmonton is no exception.  Where I grew up in BC, I took our Paratransit regularly from school because I lived too far to walk and there was no bus service available; I have chosen not to sign up for the DATS service in Edmonton, because I believe public transportation meets my needs nicely.

 

A comment I posted on Twitter today, and have voiced in the past, has gone something like this: Why would a blind person regularly take Paratransit when their city has a good, steady, reliable public transportation system?  I have received many answers, ranging from “the bus would drop me off on the far side of a busy highway” to “I would have to take six buses and a train to get where I need to go” to “Not everyone is as mobile or independent as you.”  All of these made me feel like I was a terrible person for asking such questions, and up until very recently I couldn’t figure out what got me so frustrated about the whole thing.  Now that I know… I honestly don’t feel any better; in fact, I feel angrier.

 

Using Edmonton’s DATS system as an example, you can prebook no earlier than 3 days before your trip and must have it booked by noon the day before your trip, unless you “subscribe” to a trip you need to take regularly.  If you need to cancel, you have to give at least 2 hours notice.  This doesn’t give much notice for on-the-fly concerns, but is quite likely used to keep people from forgetting about their trips if it is booked a month in advance.

 

But what bothers me most is the seemingly consistent unreliability of DATS that I have seen in the 10 years I have lived here.  I have seen people get dropped off 15 minutes late for an event, and then have their ride home arrive 20 minutes after that, so they couldn’t participate in the 90-minute activity they planned.  One friend told me that he could book a DATS vehicle to pick him up at 5:00, and it could arrive anytime between 4:00-7:00.  I once met someone who was waiting for a scheduled DATS vehicle when I walked into the gym for a workout and was still waiting when I walked out over an hour later.  And I have seen this and heard about it over and over and over again from those who use the system regularly, usually accompanied by a resigned sigh.

 

Do we not deserve better?

 

And not only us, but those who may be unable to speak for themselves.  Do they not deserve better?

 

It is not that blind people taking Paratransit are bad blind people, abusing the system and not using skills they should already know; I don’t think this in the majority of cases.  But it is that the Paratransit systems here and in other cities seem to be rigid in their regulations and lax on their reliability, and from what I have been told it is almost always the office staff who are the most abrupt and impatient when a frustrated passenger calls to inquire about the status of their ride.

 

This does not appear to be unique to Edmonton, though other cities may have different problems.  I would honestly like to speak to someone who has had consistently good experiences with a service like DATS in their city, because it would be great to hear some good news about it.  I don’t know that there are easy answers, except to say that the idea of Paratransit is a good one, though the execution needs some work.  I know my question has been all wrong…

 

When are we ALL going to stand up and request changes to a system that is obviously not working?  Our time is valuable too.

“So, Like, he takes care of you!” or…?

05 Thursday Feb 2015

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Beyond my blindness, which is fairly visibly obvious, one of the first things people notice about me is the ring on my left ring finger.  Many of them will say something about me being married, and the topic comes around to the fact that my husband is sighted.

“Oh, that’s great!”

Are they happy that I am married, happily, to someone who loves me?  That I share my life with someone who carries me through dark times as I try and do for him?  That we own a house, laugh at the antics of my guide dog and our three cats, cook, clean, bicker, smile, laugh, share hobbies, misunderstand each other, argue over money or sex or in-laws, smile and nod at little quirks that we just accept about each other?

Or are they happy that he can see?

Thankfully, Ben has told me that we don’t often get people staring at us, unless he is walking me into tables and chairs (something he has struggled with since we started dating).  There are no noticeably pitying looks, or no outward looks of admiration…

But it is not uncommon for me (and others with sighted partners) to hear comments about how great it is that their mate is there to “take care of them.”  Sure, he cooks a mean lasagna and picks up groceries, but I do laundry and clean the bathroom; if that’s taking care of me, then my contributions to our household are obviously considered “lesser” than his.  Often times (though this is not unique to my husband), staff at stores or restaurants will ask what “she” would like.  Few things annoy me (and him) more, so often times I will assert myself, or he will direct whoever to speak to me directly.  Ben says he often gets questions about how I can read, what I do for work, or if I have a dog – questions that are par for the course when people meet or hear about a blind person.  What is incredibly disconcerting is that it is assumed that Ben is my friend, and my blind guy friends are my FRIENDS (my emphasis).  It has never been said in Ben’s presence so far as I know, but I have gone for coffee or worked out with blind male friends, and it is assumed that they are the giver of the ring on my finger.

My friend Meagan is engaged to Gregg, who is also blind.  I have known them for quite a while now, and find them cute.  Not CUTE (“Oh, the little blindie couple!”) but cute (two people who care about each other and still make each other smile despite distance, time and any difficulties that come their way).  She says people do think they are adorable in the blind-couple sense, but are alternately upset that Meagan and Gregg (Meagan in particular) don’t have someone to take care of them.  It’s a double-edged sword, contingent on the idea that a blind person needs someone to watch over them; it is not a matter of finding someone to love, who happens to be blind (or sighted, in my case).  My friend Alicia agrees, going one step further: “First time someone learns I was dating, especially if the curious person was a parent or family member, that was the first question out of their mouths. I used to get angry and ask them why that was their first question, now I just answer it and move on. Usually their second is, what caused his blindness,” she says.

Conversely, I do know other blind people who are resistent to the idea of dating someone sighted, and seem to carry a resentment for those of us who have.  On one hand, it appears that blind people with sighted partners enjoy a certain elevated status; on the other, it is assumed that we think we’re too good to “stick with our own kind.”

This conundrum is not unique to the blind, however, though according to one friend we are the only ones who get frustrated by questions about the vision status of our partners.  She is deaf-blind, and says “in Deaf or Deafblind culture, it’s very normal to ask. And expected that partner is Deaf or DB. Blind seem to get mad if asked.”  She is in a relationship with someone who is deaf; they can both communicate with sign.  She says that 90% of “culturally deaf” (people who are either deaf themselves or have a familial connection to deafness, like a child of deaf parents) are in a relationship with others in the same community.  I found an interview that seems to bear this out, with a woman named Michele Westfall who has chosen to fully embrace deaf culture with her husband and children.  On the other side, Kristen is married to a hearing man, and she says she thinks it is expected that he takes care of her.  There is a possibility that any children they have will be born deaf, or they may be born hearing; either way, she hopes to teach them about the value of sign language and the unique nuances in the deaf community.

Ultimately, it puts both deaf and blind in an impossible situation.  We are either being taken care of by our sighted/hearing spouse or are too limited or insular to be bothered even trying to break away from the blind/deaf cocoons (real or imagined) that are placed around us by ourselves, our families, or society.  Our sighted/hearing mates are treated as heroes for giving up their lives to take care of us or are thought of as lesser beings for dating or marrying someone who isn’t “normal”.  If we happen to find a partner with whom we have deafness or blindness in common, there is always the niggling thought that we are perceived to be unable to do any better, so we intermarry out of a desire not to be alone rather than a deep love for one another.  More than anything, this thought scares Meagan the most.

The next time you encounter me and Ben walking through a shopping mall, or hear Meagan and Gregg perform in a restaurant, or see Michele Westfall and her husband and family signing while at a sports game, or listen to Kristen and her husband talk over a cup of coffee, just remember that we are all just like you and your partner.  Our joys, sorrows, inside jokes and petty grievances are no different from your own.  In any healthy relationship, there is care-taking, and some insulation from the outside world; whether one’s partner can see, hear or walk, we all just want to be treated as though being loved is the greatest thing in the world… which, after all, it is!

CORRECTION: Michele Westfall is not married at this time, and was kind enough to correct me for my mistaken perception.  In any event, my opinion still stands that a deaf couple still deserves the same happiness, respect and autonomy as a hearing one. 🙂

My guest blog: 9 tips from a blind New York City tourist

29 Thursday Jan 2015

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I loved Beth Finke’s memoir “Long Time, No See”. When we started corresponding through our blogs, she asked me to write a summary post on my tips as a blind NYC traveler. For those who want a brief synopsis of my trip, or who want to read the invigorating chat that resulted, check this out!

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I enjoyed reading a series of posts by blogger Blindbeader about a recent visit to New York City so much that I asked her to write a guest post for us with her NYC recommendations. I’ve never met the author of the Blindbeader blog personally, but I’ve come to know her by reading her posts there — she works for a software developer on their computer helpdesk, and lives in Edmonton, Alberta with her husband, three cats and guide dog Jenny.

New York City — Goin’ in blind

Blogger Blindbeader and guide dog Jenny waiting for a water taxi in NYC. Blogger Blindbeader and guide dog Jenny waiting for a water taxi in NYC.

by Blindbeader

I was 16 years old the first time anyone I knew had ever been to New York City, and since hearing my friends describe their trip (admittedly constrained by high school rules), I’ve dreamed about going myself. An opportunity presented itself last month, so my sighted husband and…

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I am entirely Unique… and yet I am like Everyone Else

15 Thursday Jan 2015

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Every once in a while, certain hashtags or articles make the rounds on Facebook and Twitter.  Sometimes they drive me crazy because I saw them six months ago and someone has decided to revive them.  While they come with the best of intentions – to educate the public about the needs/desires/opinions of people with disabilities or to vent frustrations about the public’s perceptions of the same – Hashtags such as #Stopableism2015 or articles such as “10 things Never to say/do to a deaf/blind person” appear to frequently do less educating and more griping about people who can hear, see, walk, etc., almost creating an overwhelmingly abrupt kneejerk reaction.  If we want to be perceived as humans with needs, desires, and feelings, should we not treat those who may be over- or under-helpful as though they have feelings, too?

 

At the root of this trend, however, is a desire to be treated equally in work, recreation, and perception.  I have been the recipient of both demeaning and preferential treatment, neither of which is what I wish.  I am thrilled to have the drive, confidence, and luck to be gainfully employed, as well as enjoy a full social life with both blind and sighted friends.  Do I get frustrated by perceptions that I am helpless?  Of course!  But I have found that the more I politely advocate for myself, the more reasonable I will appear, and the more likely I am to leave a positive impression.  I am by no means perfect at this, or think one should accept every bit of well-meaning assistance that is thrust upon me; nor do I believe that I am advocating for every blind person out there.  But I find that the more “human” I act, the more “human” I am perceived, and the less likely I am to flippantly use trendy hashtags to vent my frustration on a day when I am tired of answering invasive questions, explaining my access rights with a guide dog, or simply want to have someone ask “So what do you do?” without getting a surprised reaction when I tell them my occupation.

 

At the end of the day, an acquaintance on Twitter put this best:

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New York Vacation Day 9: Finally Home

02 Friday Jan 2015

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Nothing beats being home.  We thoroughly enjoyed the people, the sites, the activities, the food, and the whole experience of New York City, but there is no sleep that is better than the sleep in your own bed.

 

Thursday morning, we finished up our packing and headed down for our last breakfast – the fritata with mushrooms, onions and chicken sausage, a ton of coffee, and a quick farewell to Kipp, to whom we gave Smarties (they don’t have them in the USA) and an Edmonton Pipes and Drums pin to commemorate our stay.

 

We wanted to pick up a patch for Jenny – she is such a traveler now that we wanted to get a badge from all the cities she’s visited and sew it onto a new blanket.  But the Firefighter Museum was closed because it was New Year’s Day, and the Police Museum was flooded during Hurricane Sandy and their temporary lease expired in October, so they were not open either.  Instead, we took the train to the 9/11 Memorial.  It was a surreal experience, being where two large towers once stood.  You could smell some of the burnt material even now, all these years later, from a block away.  It was not altogether unpleasant, but it was a sharp reminder of what took place on that site over 13 years ago.

 

Along one wall, there were bronzed carvings depicting the shapes of the towers burning and falling, as well as memorializing the 343 firefighters who lost their lives on 9/11.  Where the towers once stood, there are fountains that fill the craters left behind, and along the railings around the fountains, there are etched the names of all those who lost their lives.  These names are three or four deep, and travel all around the fountains – the size of a building  – and it felt very surreal.  I knew where I was when I first heard the news of the towers collapsing, and on an intellectual level, I understood it, but actually being on the site was a moving experience I won’t soon forget.

 

From the memorial, we took the train to Christopher St, where Kipp recommended a little European-inspired restaurant where we could have lunch.  On our way there, we found another souvenir store, where we actually DID complete our souvenir shopping – including Jenny’s badge (bright pink that says “I heart NY”).  At the restaurant, one of the waitresses brought her kids with her to work, and explained to them that they couldn’t pet Jenny.  She asked a lot of questions about guide dog training, and made a comment about how she thought that guide dogs are perfect little beings that don’t make mistakes (Ben nearly spit out his water laughing).  The food was terrific, the ambiance was like a 60s style diner, and it was a fantastic place to spend our last meal in NYC.

 

We headed back to the B&B, grabbed our stuff, and caught our ride to the airport.  Because Jenny’s harness sets off the alarm, they had to pat both me and her down.  I told them that I would take the harness off and then they could go ahead, and they were OK with that.  Jenny got a chance to do cute little circles before getting security checked, and she laid down calmly while I got searched.  The whole process from checking in to finishing security took less than 10 minutes, and we made it to our gate in plenty of time to watch the first 2/3 of the Corner Gas movie on our portable DVD player.

 

Our flight to Chicago was delayed due to problems loading the luggage (including strollers).  We made pretty good time, but the flight was noisy and bumpy, and Jenny was unimpressed with the whole process.  Ben and I grabbed our GoPicnic lunches and snacked on them during the flight, and hoped and prayed that our flight to Edmonton would wait for us.

 

We landed at Chicago only 10 minutes later than scheduled, and were assisted through the WHOLE airport to get to our connecting flight to Edmonton.  Chicago O’Hare is a huge airport, but Ben says it is a nice-looking airport, very wide hallways, shops, restaurants… just very big!  Our flight took off nearly half an hour late because a cleaning crew had to clean up a mess involving potato chips and the landing of the previous flight.  The crew offered to move us to the bulkhead seats, which we accepted gladly, and made our way to Edmonton.  Our flight landed an hour later than scheduled, but the flight crew was courteous and professional, offering us warm wet towels at the end of the flight.  The crew was so impressed by Jenny that they gave me a little pin with pilots’ wings to clip on to a blanket or jacket; I just have to decide where to put it!

 

Our friend picked us up at the airport, driving through an incoming snowstorm to come and get us.  My worn-out shoes were no match for the piling-up snow, but we got into the van and made it home safely.  Ben is a bit disconcerted about the empty streets here, a sharp contrast to the insane traffic we had experienced the past nine days.  I told him that he should never ever ever complain about traffic again – and he said if he did, he would say that at least we weren’t in New York.

 

We hauled our duffel bag upstairs and nearly fell into bed, with Jenny squirming and wriggling to find a perfect position between us.  We are now settling back in, snug in our house, as snow swirls and blows around us, and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

Thanks to Kipp, Margo and Sarah-Doe at the Canal Park Inn for hosting us and feeding us, Roam Mobility for keeping us in touch with friends and family back home, The New York Pass for giving us access to tours and sites we might not have seen otherwise, the restaurants, tour guides, tourists, MTA workers, locals, flight crews, and all the others who made our trip so special and unforgetable. This one’s for you.

 

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New York Vacation Day 8: All the ways I suck at Directions

01 Thursday Jan 2015

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This morning we had a quick breakfast downstairs, then booked it down to the Subway where we were to take our final walking tour of the trip: The High Line, Chelsea and Meatpacking District.  Unfortunately for me, I took us down the wrong route through the Subway, taking us several blocks out of our way, which resulted in us being slightly (2 minutes) late for the start of the tour.  The guide asked if we were the Lang party (“Who are late!”) and I had to admit that yes, we were, and it was my fault.  We did the walk of shame, got processed, and walked through Chelsea Market, a beautiful old building with many food stands.

 

A fire bell in Chelsea market

A fire bell in Chelsea market

 

This was halfway in the market

This was halfway in the market

 

Wooden floors

 

We toured the High Line, which is a park built on the site of an elevated train, with views of the city, terrific hotels, and high buildings that you can actually walk beneath without feeling like you are beneath the buildings.  We saw some awesome historic buildings in the area, and heard how the Chelsea neighborhood was transformed from a run-down beat-up area to one of the most happening neighborhoods in new York City – rent here can run you $5000 a month, and that’s for a little studio apartment!

 

The lounge chairs rested on old rail wheels on the old track

The lounge chairs rested on old rail wheels on the old track

 

This pier was incredibly important when cruise ships ruled the water

This pier was incredibly important when cruise ships ruled the water

 

Nature has reclaimed these tracks

Nature has reclaimed these tracks

 

Tunnel under the buildings

 

Old brick roads in Chelsea

Old brick roads in Chelsea

 

Jenny did most of the guide work on this tour as well, and did a fantastic job!  She got lost once and tried to take me with the other tour group – our tour had taken a quick right turn that she didn’t see, so she did the only thing she could think of.  Our tour guide, Linda, got to say hi to her after the tour, which made her smile – she has a dog as well who lives with her daughter in the country because NYC is a bit too much for him.

 

 

Linda says we had a beautiful tour!

Linda says we had a beautiful tour!

 

By the end of the tour, we were very very cold, so we stepped into an old-style diner for terrific food – three-bean turkey chili for me, chicken fingers for Ben.  We planned out our afternoon, then – sufficiently warm – we walked to the Subway, where we caught the E train to Lexington and 53 St, and took an 8-block walk to Dylan’s Candy Bar.  This place was full of candy – like FULL! I think I read that it was three floors!  We kept it pretty simple, and I got some Reese’s peanut butter cups, gummy fruit salad, and mint Hershey kisses.  Jenny was a bit overwhelmed by all the smells, but did not scavenge or scrounge, even when our bag ripped and gummy fruit wound up on the floor.

 

From there, we left the sweet-smelling shop and took another 8-block walk to Carnegie Hall.  Along the way, we heard an actual copy-cat of two car horns – one would honk twice, so would the other; one would make a long honk, the other would follow suit.  This lasted for a full minute, and it made us smile as we walked the loooooong blocks to Carnegie Hall… where we found out they were closed until January 8!  I was so disappointed – I had wanted to see Carnegie Hall so badly (if you have ever played an instrument, you know that Carnegie Hall is one of The places that you want to perform).  I actually cried!

 

Dejected, we tried to do some shopping at Columbus Circle, but you couldn’t sneeze there without being charged $20 for the privilege.  So we headed back to the B&B, relaxed, and got started packing…

 

We booked a reservation for a place called Uncle Boon’s, which had three important qualities for a New Years Eve spot: It was relatively inexpensive compared to other choices, they were still taking reservations, and (I thought) they were close-ish to our B&B.  So we walked… and walked… and WALKED… a good 40-minute walk – not nearly as close as I thought.  Ben was pretty irritated that we were walking that far in the cold, but once we sat down in the little Thai restaurant, with Thai remakes of 60s music playing in the background, and the food started to arrive, I think his irritation lessened considerably.  We started off with lotus leaves wrapped around peanuts and sesame seeds, a coconut custard with lobster that packed a HUGE punch once it hit the back of your tongue, and tapioca dumplings… and there was MORE food…. and MORE food!  Ben thinks his favorite was the oyster soup (even though I got to eat his oyster(, which tasted like a lemon ginger broth with onions and mushrooms; mine was probably the pork belly (it tastes like a pork chop, but slightly greasier)… and we both adored the bourbon ice cream with rice and Pomegranate seeds.  The food was all terrific, though, and well worth the very long walk back, where we saw in the distance the Empire State Building all lit up in different colours.

 

It was 9:30 when we got back from Uncle Boon’s, so we stayed up late, relaxing, and watched the ball drop on TV.  reportedly, a million people were crammed into Times Square that night, and even though we couldn’t see them, we could hear the fireworks from Times Square.  it is a great place to be – NYC at New Year’s – but I do agree with those to stay away from Times Square to avoid the crowds.

 

Happy New Year!  My next entry will be from my own home, which – as much as I love it here – is calling me back with my own bed, my cozy house, and three kitties who will probably shun me on arrival.

New York Vacation Day 7: “Water’s $5; Welcome to Broadway!”

31 Wednesday Dec 2014

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Tuesday dawned cloudy and cold, so we bundled up and headed to Amelia’s for breakfast – Kipp and his daughter Sarah had prior commitments and could not provide us breakfast themselves, but treated us to breakfast at Amelia’s.  We walked down there for a delicious and somewhat filling breakfast, and Jenny walked the whole way flawlessly without her Halti!

 

After breakfast, we met up with Cory – our tour guide – at Penn Station for the Food on Foot Tour, which is unlike any other tour we have been on since arriving here.  The group was large, with attendees from Canada (Vancouver and Edmonton), USA, Australia, England, Germany, Scotland, South Africa, Japan, Taiwan, and Costa Rica.  This tour was designed both to be an eating tour and a mingling tour, and we did much of both!  Cory was a bit of a drill sergeant, demanding a “New York pace”, describing how things were going to be, but under that gruff exterior was a man who loves his city and wants to share it with others.  He told us that the current Penn Station was a new building, but there was an old station that acted as a hub until it fell into disrepair, and then Pennsylvania Railroad company bought the air rights to where Penn Station now stands.  We even found a Tim Hortons at Penn Station!

 

The post office at Penn Station

The post office at Penn Station

 

We saw these on our way through our tour

We saw these on our way through our tour

 

Jenny looking incredibly pitiful

Jenny looking incredibly pitiful

 

The entrance to the old MSG

The entrance to the old MSG

 

I was so tempted to ask for a double, double

I was so tempted to ask for a double, double

 

We started at a pizza place, where Ben and I split a slice of fresh mushroom pizza.  It was quite tasty, especially in comparison to generic pizzas back home.  While eating, we chatted with two travelers from Germany, who explained that from Munich, they could drive 3 hours, be through another country, and be halfway through Italy, while from Edmonton, we would still be in Alberta if we drove 3 hours in any direction.

 

After that, we headed to a Mexican grocery, where I enjoyed a fruit punch Mexican soda.  It was delicioso!  While waiting for the others’ tacos to arrive, we chatted with a couple from South Africa who happened to be at the Rangers game we were at earlier in the week.

 

Me drinking a Mexican soda

Me drinking a Mexican soda

 

Leaving that stop, we headed toward City Sandwich, where Ben and I split a “Todd”, which was like a BLT, except the Portuguese bacon was a bit thinner and not crispy, but it was so delicious.  We chatted with a couple from Scotland who were both teachers, and we stood outside shivering in the cold chatting about Scottish independence, traveling, and our love of NYC.

 

From there we went to a Greek bakery, where I went in and brought out an apple strudel for Ben and a honey cookie for me.  While I was inside, Jenny got to play Doggie for Mayor while hanging out outside with Ben, which made her and fellow travelers very happy.

 

After that point, we took a bit of a detour through a park, and then on to Papaya Go, where I enjoyed a kinesh (think fried potato cake) and Ben got a hot dog.  We ate outside while the line kept moving, but many other tourists – perhaps even us – found it very very cold!

 

Our last stop on this tour was the Little Pie Company, where I had (arguably) the best apple pie in the City – the sour cream apple walnut pie – and Ben had cheesecake.  We were both in foodie heaven, and believe it was the perfect way to end our tour.

 

Jenny did almost all of the guide work herself, in some places leaving Ben at the back of the group while heading up to the front, being only mildly distracted by other dogs, but loving the few minutes when she could say hi to the other travelers.  I was so impressed, and think that she has really grown during this trip.

 

We planned on going to Madame Tussaud’s Wax Museum, but the lineup was so long that we decided that it wasn’t a make-or-break place to go during our trip.  We caught the Subway back to the B&B, then relaxed for a couple of hours and then headed back out toward the theater district.

 

Upon exiting the train station, we found a cute little souvenir stand where we nearly completed our souvenir shopping.  Then we tried to find a particular Italian restaurant, but were unable to locate it due to the crowds.  Instead, we found a pub where we ordered sandwiches – which we enjoyed – and ate them with a background of very loud music – which we did not.  Then we made our way to Broadway, where we located the Longacre Theater.

 

“You Can’t Take it With You” stars James Earl Jones, which brings out the inner nerd in Ben, and all the reviews say the play was supposed to be hilarious.  It lived up to all our expectations, and more!  Once we entered the theater, we were guided to our seats, and offered water for $5 a bottle (“Welcome to Broadway!” – we declined.  The usher was very polite once we were seated and asked other theater-goers to go around the long way so as not to disturb Jenny, but it was done in such a way as to be both respectful and discrete.

 

The play is hilarious; I do believe there’s a movie, but I can’t say if it models the play well.  We spent 80% of the play laughing at the antics of the characters, and the rest just smiling.  Jenny scrunched herself under my seat, and did fantastic with all scenes – including those with fireworks – except the end of the second act, where there was a mass explosion of fireworks, where she wriggled out and tried to sit up.  Thankfully, this was literally the last part of the act, so we were able to get up, stretch, resettle, and thoroughly enjoy the rest of the play.  If you are ever in New York and get a chance to see it, DO IT!  It was such a unique experience, where all of the cast fed off each other’s energy, performed extremely well, and – most importantly – engaged the audience.

 

Tomorrow is a busy day, because it is our last full day in New York.  We are doing a tour of the High Line, Chelsea and Meatpacking District, then visiting Carnegie Hall, and enjoying a lovely New Year’s Eve dinner.  Even as I love New York, home is calling me back; it will be nice to go home, but I feel like I have seen what I wanted to, and still will have more to see when we come back again – and make no mistake… we WILL be back!

New York Vacation Day 6: Alone time, dog parks, and a swanky restaurant

29 Monday Dec 2014

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Ben and I have been looking forward to our alone day since starting this trip, not because we wanted to get rid of each other, but because we had a couple things we wanted to do that the other wasn’t interested in.  Ben toodled off before I did to head to his TV and Movie sites bus tour.  He saw some cool sites, but was overall disappointed with the bus tour.

 

I Took the E train to the Museum of Modern Art, which was an incredible experience.  Debbie, my guide, described pictures, Matisse cutouts, and walked me through the sculpture gallery, where we could, with surgical gloves, touch sculptures by many artists, and learn about some art history.  I am not well-versed in art, and probably won’t be much more educated in it, but it was a lovely experience, and Debbie’s descriptions were spot-on.  We went to one exhibit where you could touch some of the canvases; one of them was like a patchwork with different squares of canvas put together, some with charcoal, others with oil, and you could feel all the contrasts!  Jenny even got in on the action – laying down on the canvas!  She also was photographed as much as the artwork – something I didn’t find out until Debbie asked if I often got people taking pictures of my dog.  Thankfully, Jenny handled it all with the utmost professionalism.

 

Me and Jenny standing by the canvas

Me and Jenny standing by the canvas

Looks pretty comfortable...

Looks pretty comfortable…

...so comfortable that Jenny went for a nap

…so comfortable that Jenny went for a nap

 

After that, I went back to the train station, where I headed to the Dunkin Donuts for a coffee and donut.  Soon as I walked in the door, the lady behind the counter yelled “No dogs!”  Another customer said that it was a service dog, and that I could not be refused.  Another employee, probably a manager, said from the back that service dogs were allowed.  This all happened in the span of about 5 seconds, before I could even think to interject and say anything for myself.  Thankfully it got squared away quickly and I didn’t have to.

 

We took the E train back to within a few blocks from our B&B, and relaxed for an hour or so before taking off again.  At this point, I realized that I had misplaced my Metro card, but Ben and I talked to a transit officer who let us take the 1 train to Christopher St – advising me to call 511 to report the lost card – and walked down to Washington Square Park.  There’s a fenced dog run there, and Jenny had a blast running around, picking up other dogs’ balls, and generally meeting other dogs and being a goofy pup.  We bought a water bottle from a vender and filled Jenny’s water dish, which prompted nearly every other dog to come by for a drink!

 

After the park, we went back to the Subway station, where I purchased another 7-day Metro card – there is a reason we carried emergency cash  – and headed back to the B&B, where we got ourselves gussied up for a night on the town.

 

I found a groupon for Bill’s Food and Drink, and from the time we walked in to the restaurant 20 minutes ahead of our reservation, to being led to our table and being asked if they could set out water for Jenny, to the minute we walked out the door, the staff was attentive, service was prompt, and the food was terrific – they earned their tip, and then some.  We split an Amstel Lite beer in celebration – toasting Henny (Jenny’s trainer), New York, each other, Jenny, and whatever else we could think of.  Ben had an appetizer of roasted beets, and I had curried cauliflower soup, and we each had the pork chop, and chocolate cake for dessert.  It was a terrific place, from the food to the service to the ambiance; we would go back!  Cool fact about this place: they have real silver dollars embedded in their floor!

 

Jenny was exhausted after leaving the restaurant; she really slowed down.  She was SO tired that she completely ignored another dog that came on the E train with us usually – at the very least she looks up!

 

Tomorrow, we head off to a Food on Foot tour, have a blank slate for the afternoon, and then it’s BROADWAY!!!!!

New York Vacation Day 5: Helloooooooooo, Brooklyn! (AKA “Follow the Orange Poncho)

29 Monday Dec 2014

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This morning dawned rainy, and I woke up with a killer headache.  We weren’t sure if we could handle our plans for the day, but I had been looking forward to the NYC gospel Music tour for months – since we booked it – and I wasn’t about to miss it!

 

We had our breakfast, and Kipp was kind enough to supply me with two Advil – I wasn’t sure if I was going to be dealing with a full-blown migraine, so kill it before it got that bad.  The Advil, coupled with orange juice, granola, and tons of fresh fruit took off most of the edge, and by 9:30 – the start of our tour – the headache was nearly gone entirely.  My ankle was also holding up nicely.

 

Jenny and I had a funny little dance putting on her booties and poncho; she looked so forlorn! Then, because it was raining, we put on her Halti using our “compromise” method (instead of hooking her leash to the loop under her chin, I just kept it on her collar) and she was as happy as she gets during rainy weather – which is to say walking me almost drunkenly around puddles (swerve, swerve, swerve).

 

We hopped the Subway to Rector St and walked down to Trinity Church, where the tour started, and we had our first real crisis point of the trip.  The tour we found was speaking in Spanish!  While I speak the language somewhat – and understood about 80% of the talk – Ben doesn’t, and I nearly panicked, thinking “I KNOW the email said 9:30… it did, right?”  Thankfully, after a couple of minutes, we found two tour guides who broke our group into two, and we went with Stacey, who was dressed so fashionably in a bright orange poncho.

 

We started off in front of the church, where Stacey described the role the church played in the Underground Railroad, as well as how gospel music got its start by mixing interpretations of traditional hymns, work songs (the songs the slaves sang on their way to working), and African music, mixing intonation, repetition, call-and-response, and improvisation to make a style all their own.

 

We walked down to the Subway, and as we passed, we heard the other tour clapping and singing, and it made me smile.  This was going to be so much fun!  We followed Stacey down, starting the catch-phrase :Follow the orange poncho”, and took the 3 train to Clark St, and we were in Brooklyn!  We stood under an awning to get out of the rain, spoke more about gospel music and how it spread, and how a group of young people from Jubilee College made it popular to non-African-American audiences by touring around, using stops along the Underground Railroad, as a fundraiser for their college.

 

 

Looking up at the clock on the steeple

Looking up at the clock on the steeple

In every subway station I have seen the names of the stations have been in tiles like this

In every subway station I have seen the names of the stations have been in tiles like this

Stacy was by far one of my favorite tour guides.  She was proud of being from Brooklyn and just so bubbly

Stacy was by far one of my favorite tour guides. She was proud of being from Brooklyn and just so bubbly

 

We then spent half an hour or so touring around some of the historic district of Brooklyn Heights, finding different architectures, hearing stories about the bridge, the parks, and the buildings.  Some of the buildings were truly gorgeous, and the story of the Brooklyn Bridge itself was fascinating!

 

Statue of Henry Ward Beacher who started Plymouth Church which was also a stop on the Underground Railroad

Statue of Henry Ward Beacher who started Plymouth Church which was also a stop on the Underground Railroad

This mansion has had numerous roles.  It's been a brothel as one of its many incarnations.

This mansion has had numerous roles. It’s been a brothel as one of its many incarnations.

 

We then made our way to the Brooklyn Tabernacle, a non-descript building outside, but beautiful inside.  They requested not to take pictures of the inside, so unfortunately we can’t share, but the woodwork was gorgeous and intricate.

 

As a tourist, the service was fantastic, with a full gospel choir and beautiful solos, though as a Christian I can’t say that I was “fed”.  The people were lovely and helpful, finding us seats that could mostly accommodate the space Jenny needs.

 

After the service, Ben and I went to the New York City Transit Museum, which was just a short walk from the Tabernacle.  There were exhibits of the subways, equipment used to make them, descriptions of worker strikes, and even the old-style turnstiles people used once they put in their money or tokens.  Unfortunately, there wasn’t a lot of exhibits that were geared toward adults, especially in the bus section, and the gift shop didn’t have the miniature Subway cars we were hoping for.  So it wasn’t quite what we expected, but a cool way to see transit history for half an hour or so.

 

We were HUNGRY!  We thought seriously about hopping the train back to our B&B and ordering in, but I bought a Groupon for Burger Bistro, and there was a location not far away, and we weren’t sure when we would be near another location.  So we walked along from the R train and found a location… and had the BEST burgers!  I got a turkey patty with portabello mushrooms and goat cheese, adding on a honey BBQ sauce, putting mine on two sliders (mini burgers).  Ben had beef burger with sharp cheddar and caramelized onions, coupled with honey-mustard.  We split an appetizer of buffalo tater tots, and a side of fries.  YUM!!!!!!!  It hit the spot!

 

We then took the 2 train back toward Manhattan, where we switched to the 1 at Chambers St, which was just across a small platform.  We all needed a rest, so Ben enjoyed cheesy movies whilst Jenny and I napped and played.

Jenny was a bit barky last night, perhaps unsure of the sounds of the B&B as guests came and went, even barking at a couple arriving as we were leaving for our last nightly relieving.  I felt really bad… we gotta work on that!

 

Tomorrow is an alone-day.  Ben is off at a TV and Movie Sites bus tour, while I get to enjoy the touch tour at MoMa!  Since booking this a month ago, I have been thrilled to experience MoMa, with its sculptures and descriptive art.  I hope to find a nifty coffee shop along the way, too!

New York Vacation Day 4: History, Hockey, and Hats

28 Sunday Dec 2014

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This morning – Saturday – started out late, as the sites we wanted to see weren’t open until 10:00 AM.  We lazed around a bit until we got some breakfast late downstairs.

 

After breakfast, I twisted my ankle quite badly off the step of the B&B – Jenny tried to avoid getting hit in the bum with the front door, walked too fast, and down I went!  It HUUUUUUURT!  But the show must go on, as they say, and we walked down to the New York Fire museum, where we looked at interesting stories about the history of the fire department, and Jenny and I even got to try on some gear!

 

One of the first firehouse dogs who showed up one day.

One of the first firehouse dogs who showed up one day.

The helmet of a fire chief who was killed on duty

The helmet of a fire chief who was killed on duty

Jenny even got into it (reluctantly)

Jenny even got into it (reluctantly)

Me in firefighter gear

Me in firefighter gear

We even found a patch from Edmonton

We even found a patch from Edmonton

After a quick trip back to the B&B, we took the Subway to Bowling Green, where we sat down amongst a small swarm of pigeons and other birds to enjoy a beautiful picnic lunch.  It has been unseasonably warm here in NYC; I think the city has taken pity on us poor Canadians and given us an extra week of autumn.  We’ve heard so many stories from other travelers – from Florida, Australia, and other warm climates – that they were disappointed not to see snow; we told them to come to Canada to visit us… THERE they would get snow!

 

After our lunch, we met up with the Slavery and Underground Railroad tour from Inside Out Tours.  Before the tour started, we met up with two tourists from Germany, who joked and laughed with us about life in general.  Oliver, one of the tourists, told Ben he owed him a beer on behalf of all Germans as an apology for a German-speaker who called him an a**hole one day while he was driving a bus.  We would’ve taken him up on it if we’d caught up with him again, but the tour was rather large, and we didn’t get the chance.  We also met up with the Australia couple who were on the Inside Broadway tour with us yesterday, giving proof to the idea that New York is, in effect, a small world.

Iche and Oliver

Iche and Oliver

The tour guide described many ideas that New York has traditionally held about slavery, Africans other races, and it was an incredibly eye-opening experience.  I had no idea that New York bought slaves until the early 1800s, but did not emancipate them all at once, but it was a gradual abolition of the institution.  We also saw pictures of what was done to slaves who ran away, or men and women in free states who passed themselves as white.  This also brought up the fascinating question of “passing”, and what that meant for people; many lost their families because they couldn’t acknowledge them due to their African ancestry, but this also enabled some to survive, and others to help free slaves.  We also passed many historic buildings, almost all of which were rebuilt after one fire or another, including taverns, churches, and homes.  At one point, we even saw some wooden spots in the road that are where the original wall of Wall Street stood.

 

Statue represents Africa waiting for the civilized world to conquer it

Statue represents Africa waiting for the civilized world to conquer it

Represents the old excesses of Europe

Represents the old excesses of Europe

Represents the idea that north america is crushing the old and bringing in the new

Represents the idea that north america is crushing the old and bringing in the new

The statue represents people bowing to their eastern gods

The statue represents people bowing to their eastern gods

 

The dark squares are actually from the original wall

The dark squares are actually from the original wall

 

At the end of the tour, we got insanely lost, taking the wrong Subway, then getting turned around on foot and having to walk at least 12 blocks to get back to the B&B.  My ankle was throbbing at this point, and many of the streets were aggravating the injury by being uneven.  When we got back, Ben wrapped my ankle in the tensor bandage from Jenny’s emergency kit (don’t judge me!), and that kept the ankle stabilized enough to heal.

 

We ordered in chicken strips for dinner through the same site that we ordered last night’s Chinese food.  I am constantly surprised by the number of restaurants in the city, and the number that will deliver through Seamless.  It is nearly overwhelming, the amount of choice here.

 

We packed up Jenny, put away our cameras, and took off to Madison Square Garden to watch the New York Rangers take on the New Jersey Devils.  If you know we’re from Edmonton, you will have heard about our hockey woes; if not, look them up, because they are fascinating (if depressing) reading. we purchased accessible seats so we could have room for Jenny, which turned out to be a great choice, since my ankle was NOT up to climbing up and down a ton of stairs to get to other seats.  The view was fantastic, and Ben could see the whole rink from where we were – we’re pretty sure there’s not a bad seat in the house!

 

The atmosphere (beyond chaotic) of the Garden is electric.  These fans love their team, get into the game, and it has been a long time since I have felt something that electric at a sports game.  Even the pre-game preamble was classy, polished, and engaging.  We got snacks for the game, including cotton candy that came with a free hat (or did the hat come with a free bag of cotton candy?)  We went on to see the Rangers beat the Devils 3-1, and it was the first time we ever saw a hat trick live!  It was fantastic!  At the end of the game, the fans gave the Rangers a standing ovation.

 

All this time, Jenny was… terrific.  The whole day, she walked calmly with Ben and I.  If we were in crowded areas or with walking tours, I put down the harness handle and held her leash; in less-crowded (though still crowded) areas, I walked with her harness.  She did nearly flawless guide work all day, ignoring an insane amount of dogs (I stopped counting at 6), walking at a steady pace, and moving through crowds like she’s done it for years.  She curled up at my feet during the hockey game, MuttMuffs in place, and handled herself with grace and professionalism.  I just want to pick her up, snuggle her, and tell her to keep do whatever she’s been doing.

 

Ben and I talked today about how much we love the city.  We thought we would hate the crowds, and while we have had moments of panic due to the sheer number of people, it has not been as crazy as we thought.  We have met some great people along the way – along with a group of MTA bus drivers while coming out of Madison Square Garden; one of them hit Jenny in the bum with a door, apologized profusely, and we got talking and found they were a group of bus drivers, many with more than 20 years on the job.  Ben gave one of them his ETS patch from his old parka, and the driver gave him an MTA calendar.  It was great to hear them swap war stories, laugh at their pronunciation of Newfoundland, and just enjoy some levity.

 

Tomorrow, we’re off to a NYC Gospel Music tour, the New York City Transit Museum, and whatever else we feel like doing.

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